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“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” — Maya Angelou

In my previous post, Likeability is a Skill, we learned that likeability is something you can work at and invest in, just like working out.

We also learned that improving your likeability, improves your quality of life.

Now it’s time to turn that into action.

Great, so how do we get going? …

In the book, The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life’s Dreams, Tim Sanders shows us how to improve our likeability by working on the 12 habits and practices that improve your likeability.

The 4 Factors of Likeability

According to Tim, the 4 factors of likeability are:

  1. Friendliness
  2. Relevance
  3. Empathy
  4. Realness

The 12 Practices for Improving Likeability

If you want to practice and work on your likeability factor, here’s how.  The following table summarizes 12 practices you can work on to improve your likeability, according to Tim:

Category Key Practices
Friendliness
  1. Observe No Unfriendliness.
  2. Develop a Friendly Mind-set.
  3. Communicate Friendliness.
Relevance
  1. Increase Your Frequent Contact Circle.
  2. Connect with Other’s Interests.
  3. Connect with Other’s Wants and Needs.
Empathy
  1. Show an Interest in How Others Feel.
  2. Experience Other’s Feelings.
  3. Respond to Other’s Feelings.
Realness
  1. Be True to Yourself.
  2. Be True to Others.
  3. Share Your Realness.

Keep it Real and Stay True to You

I’m finding that it’s a healthy set of practices.  It’s an interesting blend of staying connected to others, while being your best version of yourself.

It’s about finding common ground, and focusing on that, as well as building bridges, rather than starting from differences or focusing on flaws.

At the same time, the key is keeping it real and being true to you.  It’s not about being fake or people pleasing … it’s about genuine connection.

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