Comments on: Use Stress to Be Your Best

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By: Evelyn Lim

Evelyn Lim — Sun, 21 Sep 2008 16:08:23 +0000

Your post offers a new perspective to me that stress is not the same as anxiety and that anxiety is the enemy and not stress.

One thing I especialy like is when you said that
“It wasn’t your stress. You just weren’t skilled yet.” Yes, very often, stress is triggered by the fact that we are not equipped to cope yet. If we can see that and make up for the shortfall (eg. upgrading our skillsets, etc), we can begin to experience a reduction in our stress levels.

By: JD

JD — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 20:14:33 +0000

Hey Stacey – I bet if you suddenly needed to run from Mr. Dark and Forceful, you would have ran like the win. That’s fight-or-flight in action.

I think I know what you mean about rationalizing your response. Have you read the book Blink? I haven’t read it yet, but one of my mentees said a tip to help distinguish between danger and just anxiety is if the hair on the back of your neck stands up.

By: Stacey / CreateaBalance

Stacey / CreateaBalance — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 03:34:55 +0000

Yes it is very interesting. It reminds me of an old saying “you don’t see the world as it is, you see the world as you see it.” I use this concept a lot when I get frazzled. When I can (and I usually can) I put my physical stress and my emotional anxiety into perspective by remember how unimaginable some other people’s lives are around the world. Sometimes, however, I can’t rationalize things so easily. I was in an urban environment earlier this week enjoying the warm sun and a great power walk. While waiting for the light to change the man in front of me turned around and screamed in a dark forceful voice “What the are you staring at?” I was shocked. The physical stress made my lip quiver and my knees go weak. My anxiety created a strong sense of fear that he was going to hurt me. I didn’t say a word and eventually walked away and let it go. But in the moment, there was no way I would have been able to simply say “Hey Stacey, don’t forget about all of the struggling people in this world.” I was scare body, mind, and spirit.

By: J.D. Meier

J.D. Meier — Sat, 20 Sep 2008 01:52:15 +0000

Hey Stacey

I’ll be curious to see what you find.

Isn’t it interesting how a roller-coaster is one person’s fear but another person’s fun? It’s not what happens to you, it’s how you interpret your experience.

By: Stacey / CreateaBalance

Stacey / CreateaBalance — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 14:17:53 +0000

I’m going to ponder the difference between my stress and my anxiety over the weekend. I like what I’m reading.

By: J.D. Meier

J.D. Meier — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 06:32:22 +0000

Hey Dr. Nicole

Thank you – Your highest compliment made my day. I had a hard time with this particular post. It’s a tough topic to boil down. But it’s an important one.

The distinction between anxiety and stress truly was an “ah ha” for me. Suddenly, my life flashed by as a batch of little movies. As I paused each one, I had new answers to old questions. Why did I fail my pole vault team? In practice, I clared 10 1/2 feet. Why could I not clear 8 feet now? I remember the funny feeling. I remember thinking it meant I would mess up. I never imagined it was my body doing its best to help me reach new hights.

By: Dr. Nicole Sundene

Dr. Nicole Sundene — Fri, 19 Sep 2008 05:04:18 +0000

Wow what an amazingly well written and insightful article! I initially saw the title on Barbara’s blog and was full of fury and damnation to hurry over and argue away at the title, as I typically am a proponent of people taking the time for themselves that they need to relax, BUT after reading the entire article, I decided that this was very beautifully said. So much so that I even bookmarked it to my computer. The highest compliment I think I could give a blogger. Glad that title grabbed my attention. I have read a few of your things before, and am always left inspired. Thanks! Doc