My friend is full of these little gems, so hopefully he’ll share some more. It’s a roundabout way of making a point, but the points hit home.

It’s so true, what’s between our ears ultimately shapes our experience.

@ Laurie

I love the fact that we get to choose our reaction. It’s empowering.

Well put. There’s a lot to be said for congruence — all parts involved.

@ Louisa

You reminded me that courage is feeling the fear, but doing it anyway. It’s not courage, when you have no fear. It’s our emotions that remind us we’re alive.

@ Giovanna

So true. I think it’s the metaphors and how we run our brains. I like the reminder that it’s not what happens to us, but what we make of it that matters.

@ Liara

So you’re saying mind, heart, body, spirit … and spirit trumps?

@ Craig

Yeah, some jobs suck. I think it’s about making the most of what you got and finding the lessons and more importantly, not missing the chance to enjoy the mini-moments along the way.

Life’s not static, so when a job sucks, it’s unlikely you’ll have the job forever. Either the job will change, you’ll change the job, or the job will change you.

A lot of my worst jobs were some of my best jobs because of who I worked with.

When something just won’t change and it does suck, you have to ask yourself, what’s the one quality you need to enjoy it. And that’s the lesson.

@ Juliet

Thank you.

The secret is to ask yourself the right questions. Thinking is just asking and answering questions, so you have to change the questions. Here’s some examples:
- what’s the best I can do in this situation?
- what can I learn from this?
- how can I enjoy this?
- how can I improve this?

Notice they are all empowering questions. Your brain gets resourceful when you ask the right things.

Your brevity creates real power in this post.

I’d love to hear more from you on how to change “what’s between your ears”. Or, perhaps I will find that in the archives…

Juliet

When I saw the title “It’s between your ears.” I was interested in this right away. I always feel that much of our success inculding happiness are all base on what goes on between our ears. What we think, can make it or break us (sort of speak.)
Thank you,
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Reminds me of when I went sky diving for the first time. The instructor asked me if I was scared, I told him I was scared spitless. He laughed and said good, so was he. After seeing my worried look he said that he’s done over 1600 jumps, but the day he wasn’t scared anymore he would stop cause that’s what keeps him alive.