I really like the way you framed it. It really is about choice and we’re the sum of our decision. Those little decisions really do add up.

@ Melissa

Thank you! I agree – genunine makes all the difference in the world.

@ Earl

The more I read Tim’s work, the more he impresses me. He’s so down to Earth, and he provides such actionable, relevant content. I’m a fan.

@ Giovanna

It’s really an information model for likeability. Tim did a great job framing and naming the space.

This is awesome. You are spot on with the 4 main point break down and the sub title for each main point… you nailed it right on the head.
Thanks for sharing.
Giovanna Garcia
Imperfect Action is better than No Action

Tim Sanders is one of my favorite writes, and his Love Is The Killer App is still a game changer for me. I like the way The Likability Factor meshes so well with it, in heart and action.

The world can always use a few more Love Cats. Why not us?

Life tends to fulfills reasonable expectations. If you carry the expectation and attitude that Life will treat you badly, it will. For many it’s a Catch 22 all too often, life treats them badly so their attitude changes for the worse. They don’t see the trap they have fallen into, they don’t see how it is of their own construction.

When push comes to shove, we are who we want to be. We may not choose the circumstances but we choose how we internalize them. We choose to be the person we are, ever minute, ever second of the day.

So often we don’t examine the choices we make, especially the slow and continual ones, the ones we make every day.

If your haven’t wandered off, now is a good time.

So the question is: Are you your own worst enemy, or your own best friend?

If you don’t know the answer, choose one. If you don’t like the answer, choose the other. It’s the choice that matters.

Know the expression: You can lead a horse to water but you can’t make it drink?

You are the horse. If you want to change your life you have to choose to do so, you have to choose to drink.

Once you have made a choice, you can make a change.

The next question is: How do I do it?
You may know the answer, you may not
1) read books like the one this blog post is about
2) speak with a professional on the topic
3) ask your friends
4) ask your family

—-

The advice looks really good, I may by this book for my boss and give it to her when I leave. She only focuses on the negative.

If you can share any success stories along the way, that will be great.

One distinction I didn’t really call out is that I think likeable and competent wins over likeable and incompetent. And you can imagine that likeable and incompetent wins over unlikeable and competent and especially over unlikeable and incompetent. So competency is a key factor too.

@ Davina

Thank you. I think you’re right … likeability snowballs and spreads.

@ Evelyn

I know what you mean. I think that falls under empathy. I think it takes empathy to know when you’re invading space and to understand and care how it makes someone feel.

@ Positively Present

It’s the tip of the iceberg and you’ll want the book. It’s a rare gems with a nice combo of stories, insight and action. In fact, I added it to my Best-of-the-Best category on my Amazon shop.

@ Nadia

Really good point on how focusing on negative changes what you get. To add to that, you can use time as a focus too. For example, you can shift to the past, the present, or the future. To shift to the future (which is opportunity), you can ask questions like, “how to make the most of this relationship?” or “how to have the best experience?”