“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” — Ken Blanchard
Have you ever had a hard time trying to convince somebody of something? You might not be matching their “Convincer Strategy”. In Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), a “Convincer Strategy” is how a person comes to believe something to be true. For some people, they need to see it with their own eyes. For others, they need to hear something multiple times from multiple people before they believe it.
In Unlimited Power : The New Science Of Personal Achievement, Tony Robbins writes about the “Convincer Strategy.”
Figure Out Their Convincer Strategy
“The convincer strategy has two parts. To figure out what consistently convinces someone, you must first find out what sensory building blocks he needs to become convinced, and then you must discover how often he has to receive these stimuli before becoming convinced. To discover someone’s convincer meta-program, ask, ‘How do you know when someone else is good at a job? Do you have to a) see them or watch them do it, b) hear about how good they are, c) do it with them, or d) read about their ability?’ The answer may be a combination of these. You may believe someone’s good when you see him do a good job and when other people tell you he’s good. The next question is, ‘How often does someone have to demonstrate he’s good before you’re convinced?’ There are four possible answers: a) immediately (for example, if they demonstrate that they’re good at something once, you believe them), b) a number of times (two or more), c) over a period of time (say, a few weeks or a month or a year), and d) consistently. In the last case, a person has to demonstrate that he’s good each and every time.”
Basically, the “Convincer Strategy” comes down to whether you need to hear it, see it, or read about it, and how many times you need to see or hear it, and over what period of time before you believe something is true.
Match Their Convincer Strategy or You’ll Waste a Lot of Time
In my experience, the “Convincer Strategy” is one of the most important things to figure out when it comes to influencing people. If you don’t, it can seem like you’re banging your head against the wall. You might have all the facts and figures or all the right data or really know your story, but if somebody is not hearing it in the way they expect it or, more specifically, in a way that matches their “Convincer Strategy”, then you will be wasting your breath.
Sometimes Buy-In Takes Time
When I would pitch my projects, I used to run into resistance from one of the directors. I couldn’t figure out where the resistance was coming from given that I had good answers for their tough questions, I had the relevant data, and I had done my homework. Eventually, I figured out that their buy in process takes time. All I had to do was meet with them three times before the Vision Scope meeting. By the third time, the story didn’t change, no new data, but hearing it a third time matched their “Convincer Strategy.”
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