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Don’t Compare Yourself to Others

by JD

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“Don’t ask yourself what the world needs.  Ask yourself what makes you come alive and then go do that.  Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”  — Howard Thurman

How can you avoid complacency or self-defeat, while pursuing your path?

Avoid comparing yourself to other people.

Don’t let other people set your bar, or your measure of personal greatness.  Set your own bar, and use your goals to make you come alive and find fulfillment.

We find more fulfillment when we keep moving forward toward our goals, at our pace, and our way.
In Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement, Tony Robbins shares the secrets of avoiding complacency while realizing your potential.

You Can Always Find People to Justify What You’re Doing

Don’t keep up with the Joneses.  Play with your own possibilities and unleash and expand all that you’re capable of.

Via Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement:

“One kind of complacency comes from comparison.  I use to think I was doing well because I was doing well compared with people I knew.  That’s one of the biggest mistakes you can make.  Maybe it just means your friend’s aren’t doing very well.  Learn to judge yourself by your goals instead of by what your peers seem to be doing.  Why? Because you can always find people to justify what you’re doing.”

Judge Yourself By Your Goals

If you can’t judge yourself by others, than what should you judge yourself by?  Judge yourself by your own dynamic and evolving goals.

Via Unlimited Power: The New Science of Personal Achievement:

“Didn’t you do that as a kid? Didn’t you say, “Johnny did this, why can’t I?”  Your mother probably said, “Well, I don’t care what Johnny does,” and she was right.  You shouldn’t care what Johnny or Mary or the Joneses do.  Care about what you’re capable of.  Care about what you create and what you want to do.  Work from a set of dynamic, evolving, enabling goals that will help you do what you want, not what someone else has done.  There will always be someone who has more than you.  There will always be someone who has less.  None of that matters.  You need to judge yourself by your goals and nothing else.”

If comparison is holding you back, stop looking outward and instead look inward.

What you might find just might be your next big thing.

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