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Jonathan Figaro on Lessons in Life

“What lies behind us and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

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Editor’s note:  This is a guest post from Jonathan Figaro on lessons learned in life.  Jonathan is the author of the blog, TheDropOutKid.com.  If there’s one thing we all have in common, it’s that we each have to figure out the game of life.  Without further ado, here’s Jonathan on lessons learned in life …

Lesson 1 – Live your own life.

So many people are told how to live their lives. Every book in self help, self improvement or personal advancement seems to be about how to make you think and act differently. With aspects such as this combined with all the advertisements telling you who to be and how to act, it’s no wonder why so many people are confused. I was confused also and here is what I did. I asked myself what life I wanted to live. It became very detailed and evolved during the past few years. I then asked myself, whether I was willing to pay the price for what I want.  Yes, I was willing to pay the price, and then I started to work towards it even though I didn’t know exactly how to go about it.  Along the way, I learned that the how doesn’t matter when your desire to achieve is greater than your doubt.

Lesson 2 – Believe in yourself.

We all have heard this cliché. None the less, this is the starting point of all successes. One of the hardest things for me to overcome was to believe that I could become a New York Times Best Selling author (e-book on the way guys).  I’ve pushed my doubt aside and focused on what I want to achieve. I’m still learning and growing but success starts with a  belief.  Start to believe in yours.

Lesson 3 – Love yourself and all that mushy stuff.

This is not something I enjoy talking about. I guess I’m too * manly for this* but the premise is, if you don’t love yourself no one else will. In my younger days (I’m only 22 now…LOL) I sought appreciation in all those around me.  I learned you have to love yourself if you want to give it away.

Lesson 4. Time is precious.

While I was writing my e-book, I did one thing which I kind of regret now.  I isolated myself from the rest of the world for long periods of time, at a clip. All I wanted to do was create my masterpiece.  I regret all the times that I skipped the chances for get-togethers and events. My lesson here is, enjoy the moment, balance out your life, and spend your time where it’s precious.  There are some things money just can’t buy.

Lesson 5. Don’t lose the one that cares about you the most.

We all have stories of the one that got away.  I had my chance and I lost it.  She would call me even when I didn’t have a dime to my name.  I hear she’s married now and doing very well for herself.   My lesson here is, don’t get so involved in your dreams that you forget about those who care about you the most.

Lesson 6. Family first.

I didn’t always have friends and family high on my priorities.  I used my business as a scape goat and I spend my time in a forest of self-deceit.  Eventually I learned that money, cars, and fame mean nothing, compared to friends and family. My first priority now is to take care of my family. It’s all too easy to fall for the trap of chasing desires and obsessions. only to look back and ask, where did all your precious time go?   Then the next thing you know, you lose somebody close to you and life starts to hit you a bit harder than just corporate documents and copy righting expenses. I learned success is about being happy and successful, but also keeping close ties with your friends and family. No matter how hard you work or how big you get,  keep your friends close, and family closer.

Lesson 7. Close yourself off from the world.

We all need time to reflect. I used to run around looking for peace and seeking happiness in the lips of my girlfriend, or hanging with my homies. Then I started to meditate and my world began to change. My thoughts began to flow in a better way.  I was no longer stressed.   My writing was liberated and I felt like a Zen master, in control of my destiny, but rolling with the punches. I found another route to peace and self-mastery, from the inside out.

Lesson 8. Live every day like it’s your last.

I remember there was this girl I liked a lot.  It felt almost too good to be true.  When I had the chance to kiss her, fear held me back.  After that, she didn’t talk to me anymore.  She ended up thinking I didn’t like her.  To this day, I’ve regretted how I let fear of rejection hold me back.

I’ve played these questions over in my mind …

  1. What if she was the one for me? And now she’s gone forever?
  2. What if she passed away and I never got to tell her how much I still love her?
  3. What if she could be my wife?

Life is short.  We have to take our chances.  You know the saying, “Nothing ventured, nothing gained.  Well it’s true.  My lesson here is … Live everyday like it is your last.  Take hold of every opportunity and make it count.  Sure you’ll make mistakes along the way, but it’s the chances that you let slip through your fingers that you’ll regret the most.


Jonathan Figaro blogs at TheDropOutKid.com and you can follow him on Facebook.

21 Comments on "Jonathan Figaro on Lessons in Life"

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  1. “Lesson 5. Don’t lose the one that cares about you the most.” Relationships, family, love. As life goes on I think a big part of wisdom we gain is how important deep human connections can be. Because we so often gain strength from those connections it’s easy to forget they need to be thoughtfully tended to maintain the flow. Passion shared provides more power for the pursuit!

  2. alik levin says:

    Nice list!
    In my list #6 moved to #1 :)
    #8 – i like it, the way i think of it is “have sense of urgency” – it does not mean to be always in hurry, not at all it’s just paying attention to the fact we do not live forever and making things happen need to be done now vs. later

  3. @ Fred- You hit the nail on the head with that one. It’s about paying attention to the important stuff and letting the rest fly away. Thanks for your support Fred!

    @ Alik- It’s always better to do something now, rather than later. It’s about getting busy on doing a lot of great stuff!! Thanks Alik for the support!

  4. Hi Jonathan,

    Think we met on my blog once! I went to your site and like the name.

    Wonderful list. I’d have to say #1 resonates most with me. We come into this world doing our own thing, following our own desires. Before long we’re on the treadmill to nowhere, doing the same gig as everyone else. After awhile you “forget” who you were until something jars your memory. I feel fortunate something jarred it or who knows what my attitude towards life would be.

    I’m now on an adventure I love! Thanks for the thoughtful post. Giulietta

  5. Dia says:

    Hi Jonathan,

    Very nice, we have got to believe in ourselves, otherwise, who would believe in us? Also, family does really come first. There is nothing like family. If we have strong family ties, then I believe the rest will fall into place. Thanks for sharing :)

  6. Jk Allen says:

    Hey Jonathan – in relation to number 6 “Family First”, I think that’s one of the best ways to approach our earthly priorities. Nothing provides a comparable overall benefit in life. Great job with this guest post.
    Hi J.D. – thank you for hosting Jonathan’s article.

  7. rob white says:

    Hi Jonathan,
    A well rounded list of lessons here. Life plays out in many domains (family, financial, social, spiritual etc…) and they all offer surprising discoveries about our unlimited nature. There is an awareness in each lesson that allows you to become who you really are. The lessons here show you are learning to lead a wonderfully balanced and successful life.

  8. Marlee says:

    Hey Jonathan!

    Thank for sharing this. Your depth is palpable and I really value you sharing this much of yourself.

    I especially love what you’ve said here: “the how doesn’t matter when your desire to achieve is greater than your doubt.”

    What a powerful statement. I’m going to be making that one part of my library. I couldn’t agree more.

    Thank you for the encouragement and blessings upon blessing to you my friend. :)

  9. Dandy says:

    Hi Jonathan!
    Gorgeous post. You’re words are heartfelt and genuine. Being true to ourselves will lead us down the path of authenticity. It’s wonderful how you encourage people to dive to the depths of themselves. Thanks for the great post Jonathan!

  10. @ Dandy- Thank you for the compliment. I think we all need to dive into ourselves to find more of who we are. I think everything is about self- realization and constant growth. Don’t you feel the same?

  11. @ Marlee- Thanks for your kind words. I think when we want to achieve something great. The how is totally irrelevant. The path will show itself when we are ready!

    @ Rob- I’m glad you aware of these life long lessons. Great too see you!

    @ Jk- Thanks for always supporting the movement!

    @ Dia – Family over everything! Thanks Dia for supporting the movement!

    @ Nardone- Be sure to come back to the site again. I’m happy to have you!!!

    @ J.D–I have to return the favor..thanks for hosting! Cheers

  12. “the how doesn’t matter when your desire to achieve is greater than your doubt.” This is a powerful line. How just gets us slowed down in analysis. Why is a much more powerful question. Good inspiring list.

  13. @ Tom Volkar–Thank you very much. Happy you enjoyed the post!

  14. Keith Davis says:

    Hi Jonathan
    I was going to say that number 5 was the most important, then I saw number 6.
    The two are probably closely linked for most of us but they are indeed two of the great lessons in life.

    Thanks for the gentle reminder.

    BTW – love the avatar.

  15. vered says:

    I can’t believe you just brought tears into my eyes with the “one who got away” paragraph. Not because he got away, but because I was smart enough to stay with him, even though I was young and foolish. Twenty years later, we’re still together, and he’s still not just my partner, but also my best friend.

  16. @ Keith Thanks Keith. I appreciate it. Happy you enjoyed the post!

    @ Vered– I hope i didn’t make you cry too much…lol. It’s great to here you guys are still together. That means a lot. Stay strong. Love conquers all they say!!

    @ J.D–Thanks again for the Space to post my article!!

  17. I love the idea of closing myself off from the world, or at least the Internet for a day. Very refreshing.

    And today I did a lot to make family first! Nothing like family.

    And blog every post like it’s your last too!!

    xoox

  18. Patricia says:

    “the how doesn’t matter when your desire to achieve is greater than your doubt.”

    Is right where I am stuck….I want to be healthy and I want to pay off the medical debt and be a debt free citizen. I have raised funds for so many – why can I not do this for myself?

    good list – gave everyone a point of reference to relate to – this is good

  19. @ Jannie- I’m happy your putting family first. And it’s always good to close yourself off from the world once in awhile. It’s relaxing.

    @ Patricia- Thanks Patricia. Happy you enjoyed it!!!

  20. Hi J.D. and Jonathan,
    I like all your points but I specially like #8 Live every day like it’s your last. It’s important to cherish every moment in our lives. Living like it’s the last day of our lives allows to totally engage with the moment, to reach higher, to go for the impossible, to dare to go where we didn’t have the courage to go before. When we think we have nothing to loose (like if it’s the last day), we dare to be bold and take life by the horns.
    Thanks for the reminder. Loving blessings