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Marie Forleo on Lessons in Life

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Editor’s note: This is a guest post from Marie Forleo on her lessons learned in life. Marie is a best-selling author, speaker, online-entrepreneur, Nike Athlete and Master Trainer, fitness personality, dancer, and choreographer. Her style is a compelling combo of humor, wit and wisdom, and she delivers her insight in a down to earth way. In fact, Tony Robbins interviewed Marie as part of his DVD series on the world’s leading internet marketing experts.

Her mission is to help women entrepreneurs live rich, happy, and hot. She’s all about empowering women with tools to create financial, spiritual, and emotional wealth through entrepreneurship.

What I like about Marie is that her approach is more holistic. It’s about getting results across the board, and living with zest.  She’s a modern day Renaissance Man (… er, Renaissance Woman), and pushes the bounds of life possibilities.

While we all have to figure out our own recipes for winning in life, we can draw from the lessons of others.  Without further ado, here is Marie …

Here are the top eight lessons I’ve learned.

Lesson #1. Everything is figure-outable.
Do you ever find yourself with a genius idea, but paralyzed by thought “Yeah, but I don’t know how to do that…” Here’s the deal. 99% of what you need to do to grow your business or grow your life requires you do something you’ve never done before. It’s the beautiful common denominator of self-evolution.

That’s why everything is figure-outable is my default mantra. If I don’t know how to do something, I’m pretty sure there’s someone else on the planet who does. I Google. I pick up the phone. I ask for help from everyone I know.

Never before has such vast knowledge and deep know-how been so readily available, 24/7 and largely, for free. Trust me when I say if you can dream it, you can make it happen.

Lesson #2. Build at your own pace.
Don’t get seduced by the “overnight” success stories. Most of them are total B.S. My financial and business success has grown slowly, steadily and organically over time. I’m not willing to sacrifice my quality of life to impress people I’ll never meet with “how fast” I can go. Discover your own rhythm.

Lessons #3. Never do anything ‘just for the money.’
Do it to make a difference. Do it because your soul says so. Do it because you love it so much that you’d do it for free if you could.

Either love what you do whole-heartedly or don’t do it all. Anything else is madness. Trust me when I say nothing will cost you more in terms of spiritual and financial wealth than saying yes to sh*t you really don’t want to do.

The exception here is when you’re first starting to build your business. Like me, you may need anywhere between 1-4 jobs to pay your bills while you get your business up and running. But love the bejesus out of your job/s every single second you’re there. Why? Because it’s funding your dreams and more importantly, it’s the right thing to do.

Lesson #4. Go pro or go home.
This idea is from Steven Pressfield’s insanely inspiring book, The War of Art. In any given moment, you’re either either operating like an amateur or a pro.

An amateur does things half-assed. She treats her business like a hobby. She doesn’t suit up and show up every day – no matter what. She lets her bullshit (albeit very seductive) thoughts like, “This will never work….no one cares what I have to say anyway. It’s all been done before…” stop her dead in her tracks for days, weeks and months.

A pro, on the other hand, does everything with excellence. She treats her business with dedication and respect. She’s playing to win: financially, spiritually and emotionally. She, of course, hears the same fear-based, BS thoughts in her head but says, Thanks for sharing,” and then gets back to work.

Unlike many things in life, going pro is something completely within our control. It’s an attitude. A way of being. A daily and sacred soul practice. And when you practice long enough, it becomes a way of life.

Lesson #5. There is no one-size fits all system.
I once heard Seth Godin say, “The only thing successful people have in common is that they’re successful.” Too many of us get lost in someone else’s blueprint or system. Leverage the experience and wisdom of others, but chart your own course.

Lesson #6. More sex = more success.
I don’t have research to back this up. I speak from my experience and those of hundreds of women I’ve worked with. When the sex is regular, success flows.

Sadly, many of us high achieving women are getting this sex thing all wrong. The busier and more stressed we get, the less we want to have sex and consequently the more off balance, burned-out and disconnected from our genius we become.

Regular sex unleashes your full creative power. It syncs you up with your personal wellspring of inspiration, insight and pure money-making magic.

Lesson #7. Comparison kills.
Comparison is creative kryptonite and a huge time-suck. If you really want to ensure you accomplish nothing and simultaneously, feel like utter crap for days, spend most of your time looking around at other people’s stuff.

No other person ever has, or ever will, have the unique blend of talents, strengths and perspective that YOU have. Like a snowflake, you are utterly unique. Don’t spend time comparing yourself to others. Stay in your own game.

Lesson #8. Marketing is love.
Love = connection, compassion, honesty, understanding and generosity. When you love your clients, marketing becomes a vehicle to express that love in such a way that you inspire them to action. Action that ultimately, is in their best interest. Great marketing leads us. It show us the way to change, grow and become who we ultimately want to be.


You can follow Marie on her blog at MarieForleo.com and you can check out her best-selling book Make Every Man Want You: How to Be So Irresistible You’ll Barely Keep from Dating Yourself! on Amazon.

18 Comments on "Marie Forleo on Lessons in Life"

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  1. alik levin says:

    I love #1 a lot, it is catchy and motivating. But #6 makes you my personal hero instantly! ;D

  2. Hi Marie and D.J.! Very inspiring. I love #9 and how you give a nice angle to marketing. I tend to shy away from marketing but when you put it like it’s an expression of love and inspiration, it became way more appealing to me. It’s now something that I’m actually looking forward to engage with.
    Thanks for the wisdom. Loving blessings!

  3. Every success story starts with the need for growth. We want to test our limits and help people in the process. I recently helped someone boost their book launch using a Twitter Party. I had never done one before, only participated. I had experience in watching how one was done so I pitched it. The author loved the idea, we ran with it, and it was a huge success.

    If I let me fear take over I never would have done it, but by allowing myself to step outside of my comfort zone I now have a new service to offer.

  4. You know i’m all for number 6…..( phone dialing a certain someone)…
    Great post.

  5. Kevin Lam says:

    Hi Marie, nice post and great perspective. I liked most your points but #7 in particular. Comparing rarely helps and I find more often sucks energy rather than create energy. I forget who told me this, but it went something like “Being jealous is akin to taking poison and waiting for the other person to die”. Great post.

    Kevin

  6. Patricia says:

    Wow,
    this is powerful and I passed it on to my youngest and entrepreneurial spirit, I hope it will add some mentoring to her list, because she has mostly male tutors right now and I think this is powerful success spelled with a female edge and coating.

    Thank you

    I personally am applying these techniques to self healing or as JD says DIY health care. I am having a discouraging week, when one is discouraged it is hard to get the new ideas to pop into the mind…on days when I can not stay awake, I get most discouraged. I tell my self I must wake up to heal.

    Good words. Thank you JD for sharing this teacher.

  7. Jk Allen says:

    Hi Marie – I loved lessons on life. The first lessons “Everything is Figure-outable”…I believe in this 100%. I think it takes effort and patience, but on the other side of that, the answer is waiting for us to grab it.

    J.D. – thanks for hosting this great guest post.

  8. Hilary says:

    H JD and Marie .. great post and obviously one you both practise … the more we relax the happier we will be and things will slot into place, so go at our own pace – but make sure we go. I like Seth’s quote .. don’t follow others’ patterns – they’re not our path. #1 is brilliant .. everything is figureoutable .. how right you are .. cheers Hilary

  9. Keith Davis says:

    Hi Marie
    Eight great ideas.

    I actually love Lesson #1… Everything is figure-outable.

    It reminds me a little of the saying…
    “Some things can be learnt, but not taught.”

    Guess they both imply that you have to do the hard work yourself.

  10. Yes on number 6! :). For men AND women, I think.

    Comparison, yes, a big lie. Let’s not go there, it takes too much away from our own creating.

    Practice, practice, practice to be a pro — I like that!!

    J.D. Great post! xo

  11. Dia says:

    Hi Marie,

    Very nice lessons! I agree with you “we have to build on our own pace” Success is a step at a time. The key is slow, but consistent growth for any business. Thanks for sharing

  12. Marie you rock! This is such a solid post. Lesson #3 is so important for me. It’s essential to be taking action that is congruent with our passions!

  13. Julie says:

    Hi. Nice post.

    I thought the title was catchy and I like the way Marie lives her life with a sense of self, sport and happiness.

    The items on her list that resounded most with me are the later ones. One, I feel like you should only do things for love, as she stated. I also like to work for the ‘thank you’. I can’t hear that enough some days. I’m working hard on my comparison skills as it always seems someone has it better or worse off than me.

    So I try to start every day counting my blessings. Lately I’ve also been sending out random prayers for people I see, even at the market. Hope that helps.

    Finally, in regard to the Seth quote, I like the a similar one I recently heard by Ted Turner when he said “Me? Successful? I’ll be successful when my wife isn’t mad at me and my children get straight A’s”

    Have a great day. Thank you for this.

    Julie

  14. Zach man says:

    Hello Marie,

    Thanks for taking the time to write such great words of wisdom and advice. Even the best of us at times need to be reminded by others what we are striving for has worthwhile meaning.

  15. mo says:

    Marie Forleo thanks for the 8 lessons. the best one was lesson 6 & by the way you are so pretty and the lessons from you strikes my heart…….

  16. Hello everyone especially to the author,

    It’s my pleasure to read all the very nice comments and ideas of the above persons.

    I like number 3,

    ‘Do it because you love it so much that you’d do it for free if you could.”

    It is nice to plan your work and work your plan, it is more effective to do things while before doing it, we need to ask the guidance of our Heavenly Father through sincere prayers.

    God bless everyone and more power.

    Love and prayers,
    JAy Policarpio