Articles tagged with: Happiness
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You don’t need to get what you want to be happy. You can be just as happy if you don’t get what you want, as you can if you get what you want. It’s not just sour grapes. You can manufacture your own happiness. It’s synthetic happiness. Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, teaches us that synthetic happiness is just as real and enduring as real happiness. Dan also teaches us that our longings and worries are overblown because we have the capacity to create happiness within ourselves rather than depend on experiences.
Emotions, Getting Results, Happiness, Life »
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Happiness is a skill you can develop. Some people are born happy, while others have to work at it. Some have to work harder than others. Rather than work harder, work smarter. Luckily, with all the focus on happiness, we now have a better body of knowledge to draw from. Carlin Flora shares a collection of patterns and practices for skilled happiness from a variety of sources in her article, The Pursuit of Happiness, in Psychology Today.
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Getting Results, Motivation »
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Given the economic climate and some horror stories I’m hearing, I’m refocusing on some patterns and practices for feeling good. I think motivation is one of the most crucial skills you need throughout your life. Even if already have motivation techniques that work for you, this is a set of expert techniques from the book Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated , by Dr. David Burns.
Thought PatternsBefore reviewing the motivation techniques, you should be familiar with the following thought patterns:
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Getting Results, Happiness, NLP »
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A friend of mine sent me an email titled “Twelve Little Laws of Life.” The laws were short and sweet and I was impressed. I hunted down the original author Tom Hoobyar. Tom said I was free to republish the laws. Here are the 12 laws of life, followed by my take on them.
The 12 Little Laws of LifeHere’s Tom’s 12 little laws of life:
SELF-MANAGEMENT AND PEOPLE SKILLS ARE THE KEYS TO YOUR SUCCESS AND HAPPINESS.
YOU ARE AT THE CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE. STAY THERE!
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Well, it’s the holiday season, so I thought I’d share some lessons from old St. Nick. Santa has always been one of my heroes. Granted I never thought much of his outfit and never wanted to dress like him on Halloween, but all in all, he’s a great role model in other areas. Everybody’s got their strengths and weaknesses. While fashion’s not his forte, he’s got that relentless positive attitude and a contagious laugh.
The thing is, you can learn something from anybody if you want …
Book Nuggets, Emotions, Happiness »
Is smart a criteria for happiness? In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated, David Burns writes that it’s not your intelligence, but your frustration tolerance that’s the key.
Key Take AwaysHere’s my key take aways:
Don’t lower your expectations. Happiness isn’t about lowering your expectations.
Raise your frustration tolerance. Learn to roll with the punches. Improve your ability to deal with things when they don’t go as planned.
This point rings true. I think the meta-point is that it’s not about lowering your expectations about things; instead it’s about improving your …
Book Nuggets, Emotions, Motivation »
Can you really predict just how much you’ll enjoy something or not? You can use a Pleasure-Predicting Sheet. The Pleasure-Predicting Sheet is a technique you use to record your estimated expected pleasure against your actual pleasure. You schedule a set of activities that contain a potential for personal growth or satisfaction. You do some of them by yourself and some with others. You predict your pleasure before the activities, and then record the actual results, after the events.
In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated, David Burns writes …
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How do you get your motivation back? You need to first know the negative thought patterns that take away your motivation.
In Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy Revised and Updated, David Burns identifies thirteen negative motivation patterns.
Key Take Aways Here are my key take aways:
Add a buffer for tolerance in your day to day. Rather than get frustrated when things go wrong, ask how yourself how you might avoid it next time. For example, if you’re always late because you get stuck …
