“Genius is the ability to renew one’s emotions in daily experience.” — Paul Cezanne
Editor’s note: Bad emotions happen. The test is — what will you do about them?
This is a guest post by M.Farouk Radwan from 2knowmyself.com. Farouk has a passion for helping people deal with negative emotions. He speaks from experience and has science on his side. He turns his lessons learned into simple ways you can improve your ability to deal with bad emotions and take effective action. Farouk also happens to be an online millionaire and his site generates more than 500,000 visits a month. He’s also written eight books on personal development and mastering your emotions and he’s been featured on TV for his work. Without further ado, here’s Farouk …
Here are the top seven lessons I learned on dealing with bad emotions …
Lesson #1 – Bad feelings are just signals
Lots of people never manage to understand the fact that bad feelings are signals sent by their minds in order to motivate them to do something. Just like hunger is a signal that shows that you need food emotions are signals that show you that you are in need of something.
Lesson #2 – Dealing with the root cause is the key
When most people feel bad they try to change their mood by doing something new, traveling, keeping themselves busy or even by using drugs. Bad moods intensify when you ignore them that way and the only way to end them to deal with the root cause. Think of a bad mood as a tree, if you want to get rid of it you have to cut the root instead of dealing with branches that will grow once again
Lesson #3 – 1+1= 14
The presence of two bad emotions at the same time will dramatically increase the intensity of bad feelings so make sure you never allow problems to accumulate. For example loneliness alone might be bearable, stress alone is bearable but both together would be a killer combination.
Lesson #4 – The faster you respond the better you will feel
When your subconscious mind sends you signals in the form of bad feelings and you don’t respond it will send you stronger signals later on. That’s how mild depression turns into severe depression and that’s how prolonged stress ends into nervous breakdowns. In short, respond as soon as you get the message.
Lesson #5 – Look for signs of problems
Bad dreams, insomnia, bad moods that seem to come out of nowhere are all signs that you have been suppressing bad emotions instead of dealing with them. If those signs started to appear then take immediate action
Lesson #6 – Mood swings
Mood swings are nothing more than changes in your feelings that happen when you see something that quickly reminds you of one of your unsolved problems. If for example you wanted to lose weight but were doing nothing about then seeing a swimsuit model could trigger a mood swing
Lesson #7 – You don’t have to solve the problem, you just have to start
Just like intense hunger is reduced to half the moment you start taking the first bite bad emotions are reduced to a great extent the minute you start taking actions. So you don’t have to solve your problems in order to feel good, you just have to start solving them.
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