Best Books on Interpersonal Skills

Interpersonal Skills Books

“Your career success in the workplace of today – independent of technical expertise – depends on the quality of your people skills.”  — Max Messmer

This is a list of my favorite and noteworthy books on interpersonal skills.

When I think of interpersonal skills, I think of assertiveness, body language, conflict, conversation starters,influence, negotiation, networking, relationships, teamwork, and trust.

The books below help provide interpersonal skills, including mindsets, methodologies, and methods.  I test many of the books below while leading programs, projects, and initiatives in environments ranging from simple to complex.

I put the bulk of the list in categories so you can explore relevant books and you can easily compare against your existing leadership books library.

10 Best Books on Interpersonal Skills

  1. Coping with Difficult Bosses
  2. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High
  3. Dealing with People You Can’t Stand: How to Bring Out the Best in People at Their Worst
  4. Enchantment: The Art of Changing Hearts, Minds, and Actions
  5. Get Them On Your Side
  6. How To Win Friends and Influence People
  7. How to Work a Room, Revised Edition: Your Essential Guide to Savvy Socializing
  8. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion (Collins Business Essentials)
  9. The Likeability Factor: How to Boost Your L-Factor and Achieve Your Life’s Dreams
  10. The SPEED of Trust: The One Thing That Changes Everything

Best Books on Interpersonal Skills by Category

Assertiveness, Confidence

Charm, Charisma, Attraction, Likeability

Body Language


Conversations, Conversation Starters

Coping Skills

Crucial Conversations, Difficult Conversations, Confrontations


Habits, Principles, Practices

Influence, Persuasion, Rapport

Interpersonal Skills

Meetings, Events

Negotiation Skills



Strategies, Tactics



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