“Keep love in your heart. A life without it is like a sunless garden when the flowers are dead.” — Oscar Wilde
You can use little moments in your life for love to flourish and bloom.
The little moments are everywhere.
You can choose to create more feelings of warmth and connection. Just like you get what you expect, you also get what you project. And what goes around, comes around.
Rather than just focus on a big bang approach, you can realize love in more of your micro-moments.
In an article called “Redefining Love”, in Live Happy magazine, Melissa Balmain, writes about how people are enjoying and creating more little moments, or “micro-moments”, of love.
Share More Micro-Moments of Warmth and Connection
If you think of love as warmth and connection, could you express it more, and receive it more often?
“While you may find that odd, Liza is part of a growing contingent who reject the notion that love is all about sex and soul mates, or the bonds you share with your nearest and dearest.
Instead, they see love as ‘that micro-moment of warmth and connection that you share with another living being,’ a concept introduced by Barbara L. Fredrickson, Ph. D., author and leading researcher in the positive psychology movement, in her book Love 2.0.”
Let Little Micro-Moments of Love Bloom Often
Liza, a psychotherapist and yoga teacher, shares a story of how she was looking out the window of a coffee-shop, and a man came along on roller skates just singing his heart out, and their eyes locked.
In that instant, Liza felt a brief moment of warmth, good-will, and connection.
“Such moments can–and should–bloom often with your spouse, your parents and your child, she says, but they’re just as possible with a casual acquaintance or stranger.
Your dry cleaner or barista, say.
That woman who smiled at your from across the subway aisle.”
Wish Others Well and Connect on a Human Level
A wonderful thing happens when you wish others well and connect on a human level. You create more micro-moments of love.
“’It’s about connecting with people on a human level and…wishing them well or just sharing something positive,’ says Barbara, a professor and direct of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of North Caroline, Chapel Hill.
That is a pretty low bar for love, and I think that most people could meet that to the extent that they’re engaged in social interacts at all.’”
A New Look at Love
Some people are redefining love to experience more love in their every day moments.
“For some, redefining love brings a sense of release.
‘It’s liberating to let go of those old beliefs–‘I have to be n a relationship to have love’ or I have to be a parent to feel love,’ says Liza, who was recently divorced.
‘It’s liberating to think I can go to a yoga class by myself and have some of the same emotions or connections that I might get from sex with a partner or interaction with children I’ve created, so it gives people a lot more options, to be sure.’”
Get Active to Help Long-Term Relationships Flower
You can breathe new life into relationships when you do things together. Motion creates emotion, and activities can be a great way to fan your flames.
“Walk. Cook. Dance. Ski. Data show that shared movements resulting from positivity resonance make it more likely that a relationship will take root. Getting active together can also keep long-term relationships continue to flower.”
Love isn’t in the air.
It’s right under your feet and in your heart wherever, and whenever, you generate micro-moments of warmth and connection.
Be a force multiplier.