Who Are You and What Do You Want?


Four Dimensional Thinking is a technique to help you figure out who you are and what you want.

It’s a way to reflect on your life to help you get from where you are to where you want to be.

Reflecting can be structured or unstructured thinking.  Thinking is just asking and answering questions.  If you want better answers, you need to start by asking better questions.

Four Dimensional Thinking Helps You Clarify Your Life

Four Dimensional Thinking is a way to start asking better questions about your life.  When you know who you are and what you want, you gain confidence and clarity in how you live your life.

In Who Are You and What Do You Want?, Mick Ukleja and Robert Lorber write about Four Dimensional Thinking to help you get your life on track

4 Dimensional Thinking

According to Ukleja and Lorber, the heart of Four Dimensional Thinking is the following questions:

  • Who are you and what do you want?
  • Where are you and why are you there?
  • What will you do and how will you do it?
  • Who are your allies and how will they help?

Perspective, Vision, Clarity, Transparency and Direction

Use Four-Dimensional Thinking to help you get clarity and direction in your life.
Via Who Are You and What Do You Want?:
Four-Dimensional Thinking  is your global positioning system, providing perspective, vision, clarity, transparency, and direction.   You may feel stuck.  You may face a confusing array of options.   You may feel as if things are moving too fast or you need an antidote against complacency.  You may feel life has been reduced to a series of birthdays.”

Key Take Aways

Here are my key take aways:

  • Four Dimensional Thinking is a framework for analyzing your life.  Four Dimensional thinking is a set of 4 questions to help you change your life.
  • Get clarity and direction on your life.    Use Four Dimensional Thinking to make sure you are leading the life you want to live.

You can use Four Dimensional Thinking as a sanity check or as a way to help you learn more about who you really are and what you really want.

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  1. Hi J.D. I started cheering and wow-ing as soon as I got to “ask better questions.” This is my mantra — one I share with moms all the time. Teach your kids to ask questions. They don’t know how! The public school tests are multiple choice, taken directly from the text, written by the publisher, engineered to get kids to mimic. Not to think. Not to question.

    There… I had my say. 🙂 Please forgive my feistiness, but I feel strongly about this, being a questioner my whole life long. Having been taught by my mom to investigate for answers.

    Those four questions are great! We really do have some responsibility in this thing called life, don’t we? And what a privilege it is.

    Louisa, the best questions take time to work through. They don’t have cut and dried answers simply because each of us is unique. Our experiences to date, our lessons, our level of wisdom, our purpose-driven passions. The answers are a process we adopt. And an attitude we take to them.

    Great post, J.D. 🙂

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  3. How simple… how powerful!
    I think there is 5th question that usually precedes these 4 – “WTF?” 🙂
    Every time I have these WTF moments I must ask myself these questions.
    Thank you very much – very timely stuff! I have this WTF moment right now 😉

  4. Hi J.D.

    I love the topic.
    I found myself asking “Why are you here?” instead of “Where are you and why are you there?” All the other 3 I am totally with you on them.
    Thank you for the honesty and get to the point style of writing.
    Giovanna Garcia
    Imperfect Action is better than No Action

  5. @ Louisa

    They’re a starting point. You can use them to figure out what you know, don’t know, and need to know next. The links at the end of my post help a lot too.

    @ Barb

    Thank you. I sometimes call myself a “question-eer” (a play on engineer.) I actually build collections of questions and I’ve studied various question / thinking techniques.

    @ Alik

    I would challenge you to be answer, what’s your greatest gift you can share with the world. I think you’re already doing it. You pave paths and lift others up. That’s a good thing.

    @ Giovanna

    Why are you here is a great question that cuts right to the chase. I like it.

    I try to write as simply as possible. I want to make it as easy as possible for people to turn insight into action and unleash their best.

  6. How come, like 500 people are not commenting on your blog? You seek out and post the best, most helpful stuff.

    Ah, but maybe your readers are the strong and silent types!

    I really like the “allies” part, I certainly get more than by with a LOT of help from my friends.

  7. @ Jannie

    Thank you. That’s a good question. I don’t think I’ve hit a tipping point yet.

    There’s something to be said for self-reliance, but friends sure help a ton.

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