“Love is not about possession. Love is about appreciation.” — Osho
What if you could unlock the secrets of successful relationships without having to spend years researching and writing a book?
Long ago, I embarked on a journey to write a book about love, and along the way, I discovered an incredible library of stories, notes, and insights that have helped countless couples deepen their connection and build relationships that last.
While I may not have written the book, I’m excited to share with you the 10 Relationship Hacks that emerged from my research and experience. These hacks are designed to help you connect on a deeper level with your romantic partner.
By implementing these hacks, you’ll be able to build stronger, more meaningful relationships that grow better with age.
So if you’re ready to take your relationships to the next level, let’s get started!
Love Life Hacks: 10 Tips for Strengthening Your Relationship
Love Life Hacks: 10 Tips for Strengthening Your Relationship is a guide that provides practical and actionable advice for couples looking to improve their relationship.
The tips include effective communication strategies, ways to prioritize quality time together, methods for resolving conflicts, and techniques for showing appreciation and gratitude.
By implementing these love life hacks, couples can strengthen their connection and create a happier and healthier relationship.
#1: Know Your Relationship Vision
Tony Robbins talks about the biggest relationship disappointment is when two people have different ideas of what a relationship should be and look like.
Think about your vision, and consider what it means for you.
Tony shares a few key questions:
- Is your vision full of affection?
- Is your vision more like a near and dear friend?
- Is your vision more like you each live your own life, but support each other thick and thin?
#2: Tuesday Date Nights
Long ago a very senior business director at Tiffany’s & Co, told me that Tuesday night is date night. It’s how he makes time each week for his wife, no matter how busy things get.
Have a night you choose for fun and frolic
No matter what.
#3: Keep It Playful
Never lose your play — things get stale when you lose your play (your playfulness probably attracted them in the first place)
Keep it playful.
Fflirt with each other.
Surprise each other.
#4: Learn Your Love Languages
The 5 love languages were introduced in a book called “The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate” by Dr. Gary Chapman.
- Learn the 5 languages. The 5 love languages are:
- Words of Affirmation
- Quality Time
- Receiving Gifts
- Acts of Service
- Physical Touch
- Figure out your love language.
- Figure out your partner’s love language.
#5: Be Aware of Your Attachment Type
Attachment types are formed early on — experiments test how babies respond as mothers leave the room and come back.
The attachment types are a classification of the ways in which people relate to others based on their early attachment experiences with their primary caregiver. The four main attachment styles are:
- Secure attachment
- Anxious-preoccupied attachment
- Dismissive-avoidant attachment
- Fearful-avoidant attachment
Are you the anxious type?
Is your partner the confident and assured type?
Can you adapt your attachment type to better blend with your partner’s?
#6: Decide What You Want Your Relationships to Be About
What sort of a love lifestyle do you want?
Here are some thought starters:
If you don’t choose a love lifestyle consciously, you might fall into the habits and practices of those couples who bicker or henpeck and end up miserable.
If you want a life of magic or for life to be an enchanting dance, the choice is yours.
#7: Don’t Be Two Halves–Be Two Better Wholes
Stand strong alone.
Be better together — the sum is more.
Don’t give up yourself or lose yourself.
Keep each other’s passions alive.
Stoke each other’s fire.
For a relationship to keep going, people need to keep growing.
#8: Learn the Kinds of Love There Are
Know the 7 types of love:
- Eros: This is a passionate, physical, and romantic love, often associated with sexual attraction and desire. It’s the type of love often depicted in movies and novels.
- Philia: This is a love based on friendship and companionship. It’s a strong bond between people who share common interests, values, and experiences.
- Storge: This is a love that grows out of familiarity and dependability. It’s often seen in long-term relationships or familial relationships, where there is a deep sense of trust and comfort.
- Agape: This is a selfless, unconditional love, often associated with altruism and compassion. It’s a love that seeks the well-being and happiness of others above one’s own.
- Ludus: This is a playful, flirtatious love, often associated with dating and casual relationships. It’s a type of love that’s focused on having fun and enjoying the moment.
- Pragma: This is a practical, pragmatic love, often associated with long-term relationships and marriages. It’s a love that’s based on shared values, compatibility, and practical considerations.
- Philautia: This is a love of the self, often associated with self-esteem and self-worth. It’s a love that’s focused on self-care and self-improvement.
The Greeks didn’t like eros, they thought it was dangerous — the lustful kind that led to bad decisions.
Learning the 7 kinds of love can be helpful in building stronger and more meaningful relationships.
By understanding the different types of love, you can better recognize and appreciate the various ways that you and your loved ones express and experience love.
This knowledge can also help you identify areas where they may be lacking in expressing certain types of love and make efforts to improve in those areas.
Additionally, understanding the different types of love can help you make more informed choices in your relationships, whether that means seeking out a partner with a certain type of love or being mindful of the types of love you are cultivating in your own relationships.
#9: Give Each Other Space
Make room for each other to do your own things
Don’t cramp each other’s style
Embrace the ebb and flow of close and apart
Periodically use the space to reflect on and play with your favorite memories of when you are together
#10: Falling in Love Quietly Might Prove a Deeper Kind of Love
Some think that if you don’t have fireworks right from the start, it will never work.
Some say the better relationships are where you are good friends that developer deeper over time and suddenly, one day, find yourself deep in love.
The bottom line is there are many paths to the same town, but the key is to know which town you want.
Bonus Tip: True Love is Falling in Love with the Same Person Over and Over
This is a lesson I learned early in life, probably from watching too many TV shows, but I thought it was an interesting, dynamic way to think of relationships over time.
The statement “True love is falling in love with the same person over and over” suggests that love is not just a one-time event or feeling, but rather a continual process of rediscovery and reaffirmation of commitment to one person.
It implies that love is not just an initial attraction or infatuation, but rather a deeper connection and ongoing choice to love and cherish someone despite challenges or changes over time.
It also suggests that love is not static or fixed, but rather dynamic and can grow and evolve as individuals and their relationship mature.
Kindle that Flame with Kindness and Care
These 10 Relationship Hacks are designed to help you deepen your connections with the people who matter most in your life.
By following these practical and actionable tips, you can build stronger, more meaningful relationships that grow better with age.
If you’re looking to improve your romantic relationship, these hacks are the perfect place to start.
Remember, love is a continual process of rediscovery and reaffirmation of commitment, and these hacks will help you keep that flame burning bright.
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